Posers

I have been having way too much interaction with CH. I don't know what his game is, but now that we are on the brink of divorce, he decides that he is 100% invested in the health of the store, wants to dig in and get the accounting done, wants to think up and run events. Where was he a YEAR ago? Where was he when the accounting needed doing? In a bar, somewhere, or sleeping off being in a bar somewhere. Or just gone, not around.

He accompanied me to film night Thursday, wine walk Friday and is lurking here all day today. He has NEVER spent this much time doing store related things, and I am so IRRITATED. I hear how dedicated to building community he is, how hard WE are working to reach out and make a difference. HE is not doing anything other than talking about it. I am the one making connections, working on boards, volunteering my time and resources to others in the community. I feel like he is riding my coattails, making himself look good, after I have done all the work. And I don't wish to be viewed as egotistical, and not giving credit where credit is due, but he has done NOTHING of his own volition that has really stuck. And he keeps volunteering me and the shop, which needs to stop. Then I get the "oh, you never let me do anything" routine, which is also offensive.

Being nice is apparently not working. Now I wonder if he is really going to move out. He's not off looking at houses today, nor have I seen movement towards getting the house he says he likes. What is he thinking? And tonight, when I go on my date with Big Boyfriend, is there going to be bad feelings and jealousy?

I would like to think I am not just being a spoiled brat here, being offered help, then scoffing at it. I would like help in the form that makes sense, and is actually helpful. Is that too much to ask?